Hey there, Cutie! 🌸 Have you ever felt like you’re chasing goals that don’t quite feel like you? Almost like wearing shoes that don’t fit—tight, uncomfortable, and just wrong. You keep moving forward because you’re supposed to, but deep down, something feels off. If this resonates, you’re not alone! Many people set goals based on expectations, past conditioning, or societal norms without stopping to ask: “Is this truly what I want?” Well probably not, Why? because they are out of alignment.

The magic happens when your goals align with your inner self. When your aspirations reflect your deepest values, desires, and authenticity, life feels more fluid, joyful, and fulfilling. Instead of forcing progress, things begin to click, and you naturally move toward your dreams with excitement rather than resistance. ✨

Let’s dive into how you can make sure your goals resonate with the authentic, fabulous you! 🌟

1. Connect with Your Essence Before Setting Goals

It is very important to (before you set your new goals) open your heart and be very honest with yourself and listen to your biggest dreams AND fears

Self-Deep Dive: Know Thyself

Before you even think about setting goals, take a deep breath and ask yourself: “Who am I beneath all the labels?” Beyond your job, responsibilities, and the roles you play in other people’s lives—who is the real you?

We often get so caught up in doing, that we forget about being. But your true desires come from a deeper place, not just from what seems logical or expected. Think about the moments when you’ve felt most alive—those experiences hold the key to your authentic self. 🌿

💡 Practical Tip: Start a “Who Am I?” journal. Write about times when you felt truly happy, at peace, or completely yourself. These are clues to your essence.

✨ Example: Imagine Sarah. She spent years in a corporate job, climbing the ladder, but always felt drained. One day, she rediscovered her childhood love for painting. As she started painting again, she felt a deep joy she hadn’t felt in years. This was her true-self calling her back.

Explore Your Core Values

Your values are the invisible threads weaving through every decision you make. They are the why behind what you do, shaping what feels right or wrong. When your goals are out of alignment with your values, you’ll always feel a subtle (or not-so-subtle) sense of friction, like trying to swim against the current.

For example, if freedom is a core value for you, but you pursue a rigid career path with no flexibility, you’ll eventually feel suffocated. If connection is vital to you but you prioritize a job that isolates you, something will always feel missing.

💡 Practical Tip: Write down your top five values and reflect on whether your current goals align with them. If not, what small shifts can you make?

✨ Example: Tom always valued adventure and independence, but he found himself stuck in a repetitive 9-to-5 job. Once he acknowledged this misalignment, he transitioned into freelance work—allowing him to travel and work on his own terms.

Differentiate Internal Desires from External Influences

Not all goals are created equal. Some come from deep within your soul, while others come from pressure, expectations, or a desire to please others. The tricky part? We often confuse the two.

Ask yourself: Am I chasing this because I truly want it? Or because I think I should? If your goals are fueled by the need for approval, validation, or fear of disappointing others, they might not actually belong to you.

💡 Practical Tip: Make a list of your current goals. Next to each one, write down whether it feels like a “soul-driven” desire or an “ego-driven” expectation.

✨ Example: Emily spent years pursuing law school because her family believed it was a prestigious path. But deep down, she longed to be a teacher. Once she let go of the pressure to meet others’ expectations, she found her true calling.

2. Identify Signs of Misalignment

These are the 3 main things you need to identify before you set your new goals. ✨

Feeling Constant Resistance

Resistance isn’t always a bad thing—it can be a sign of growth. But when it’s persistent, exhausting, and leaves you drained rather than challenged, it’s time to listen.

If you constantly feel like you’re forcing yourself to move forward, dragging your feet, or dreading certain tasks, it’s worth asking: Am I resisting because this isn’t right for me?

💡 Practical Tip: Keep a “Resistance Radar” journal. Whenever you feel resistance, jot it down. Over time, patterns will emerge, revealing what’s out of alignment. But be very careful and be 100% honest to yourself: in every single job there must be things that we do not completely like, but we seem forced to do or we couldn’t continue with the things that we truly like, in this case we can either delegate it or endure until we finish it and move on to the next phase, not everything we don’t like means we have to quit, sometimes it’s just a small difficult transition that leads us to what we really like to do.

✨ Example: Mark dreaded going to work every morning, feeling drained by tasks that didn’t excite him. When he reflected on why, he realized his true passion was helping others—something his current job didn’t allow.

Lack of Excitement or Inspiration

Your emotions are powerful indicators. If your goals don’t spark joy, curiosity, or inspiration, that’s a red flag.

Think about how you feel when you talk about your dreams. Do your eyes light up? Do you feel a rush of excitement? Or do you feel indifferent, uninspired, or even trapped?

💡 Practical Tip: Start a “Joy Journal.” Every day, write down moments that genuinely excite you. Compare these to your goals—are they out of alignment or are they perfectly aligned?

✨ Example: Lisa always said she wanted to be a doctor, but she dreaded every step of the process. When she explored alternative paths, she discovered her heart was in holistic health.

Physical or Emotional Symptoms

Your body knows before your mind does. When something isn’t right for you, it often shows up as stress, fatigue, anxiety, or even physical ailments.

If you constantly feel drained, uninspired, or disconnected, consider whether your current path is nourishing or depleting you.

💡 Practical Tip: Pay attention to how your body reacts to certain activities. Does it feel light and energized or heavy and exhausted?

✨ Example: Jake suffered from frequent migraines and burnout. When he stepped back, he realized his job in finance didn’t allow for the creativity he craved. His body had been trying to tell him all along.

3. Redefine Goals from Alignment

To feel the alignment in your life, you need to think, speak and act the same way. But above all, you must listen to your intuition, the ego gets in the way in crucial moments where it blurs our mind and makes us think without clarity.

Trust Your Intuition

Your intuition is your internal GPS, guiding you toward what’s right. But if you’ve spent years ignoring it, it might feel faint. The good news? You can reconnect.

When you quiet the noise—through meditation, stillness, or even just listening—you’ll start hearing what your soul has been whispering all along.

💡 Practical Tip: Before making big decisions, take a moment to sit in silence. What does your gut say?

✨ Example: Emma always knew she wasn’t meant for engineering, but fear held her back. When she finally listened to her intuition, she transitioned into photography, where she thrived.

Final Thoughts

Aligning your goals with your authentic self isn’t about perfection—it’s about awareness. It’s about checking in with yourself, adjusting when necessary, and trusting that the right path will always unfold when you follow what feels true to you.

So, lovely soul, take a deep breath and ask yourself: Am I chasing a dream that feels truly mine? If the answer is yes, keep going! If the answer is no, give yourself permission to pivot. Life is too precious to live out of alignment.

Here’s to creating a life that feels good to you ONLY! 🌟✨